LOVE : Inspired by a true story of an Ibu Zainer. Part 1

You guys might think that this blog was all about serious stuffs about college and academics right ? With this, we will prove you wrong. 

LOVE part 1.

At this point of time, I do not even care about my grammar. If you are a grammar Nazi, do correct any of my mistakes.  I might be married but I am not that really particular when it comes to writing a story.  Before reading this piece of something, bear in mind that this was based on some real life experience. I might alter some things here and there. Why? Because I could do so.

                Falling in love while studying is common for all of us. Maybe not for all of us, but mostly. Well, I fell in love with a girl while I was studying. People might say that it is some kind of puppy love you might say. But this one girl, she was the real deal. When I saw her, the train hit me so bad that I fell in love with her in a matter of seconds.

               

               I am not an average guy, I do not like girly girls. I like them tough ! You’ve read that right ? TOUGH. Mentally tough that is. I hate it when girls are acting like they are some kind of a princess who needs a handsome prince that could provide her anything. I don’t like that. I like my girl (wife) to be TOUGH !, caring, loving, the type of girl that will be with you when you are having your ups and downs.

We met while we were studying in a university for the same foundation course back in 2012. At that time, at the age of 18. I had to juggle with three different girls at the same time. Isn’t that awesome or what?! *insert happy laughter here*. The moment I saw this girl, I literally said “ Oh God, your creations are amazing “ I was all alone in my room on the fourth floor my hostel. Where was her? She was at the gazebo, the view from my room was terrific. I could see everything from up there, but my main focus was that girl. Sitting together with a bunch of newly made friends. I wish I had the guts to go down there and asked for her number.

Eventually, I’ve found the inner bravery of a World War II soldier in me. I stalked all of her movements via my trustworthy window. I waited patiently until she was with around three or four other friends. Then, I put on my Baju Melayu alongside with my skinny jeans and I went downstairs to greet her. And her friends of course. Duhhh.

What was my plan to get her number? First, I will go there and be a nice guy. Second, I will tell them my name. Third, try not to look like a douchebag. Fourth, ask for their phone numbers ( her friends) . Fifth, ask for her phone number so that we will be able to exchange "study" related things. Sixth, get back to my room and sing or dance happily if I managed to get her number.

Guess what? I got her number.

During that particular moment, I was the happiest guy on earth. But there is this one thing that embarrased me. Yup, I did get her number , but I was not the one who texted her first. SHE TEXTED ME A “GOODNIGHT”. I was surprised by this particular action of her. A girl, making a move. That is a rare move from a girl.

After that things were going as smooth as a manual car driven by Michael Schumacher. We did had problems between us here and there, and the fact that I am not living in the peninsular of Malaysia made it even harder for us. Long distance relationship, you need trust in it. I did manage to broke her heart accidentally but I managed to mend it back.

Proofs?

Months passed. From the same university, we were splitted into different universities. It was hard for us.  Eventually, I’ve told my parents about my intention of getting married. I wanted to become a responsible person with duties. I don’t want to be a little boy anymore. I wanted to become a real MAN. I wanted to marry her. The reaction that I’ve got from both of my parents were positive. Maybe they don’t  want me to do the things that I am not supposed to do. Maybe they wanted to make me happy. But all of this came with some agreements.

1.       I must graduate. No matter how.

2.       I will need to pay my parents back for the money used in this marriage ( I wanted to do so )

3.       I must live together with my parents until when-when . Why? Because I am their only son, all of my other siblings are girls.

To be continued.

Perkongsian Alumni

Full Name                      : Wilfred Mok Kok Hoe

Gender                           : Male

Race                                : Chinese

College Address            : D1F2

                                              Kolej Tun Syed Nasir

                                             Kampus Kuala Lumpur

                                             Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia,

Contact details              : 016 - 3244505

Email                              : wilfredmpp.asp@gmail.com

Course                            : Bachelor of Science with Honours (Environmental Science)

                                              Master of Health Science (Health Education)

                                              Doctor of Philosophy (Nutrition)

 ACTIVITIES/CO-CURRICULUM                                                                                                             

·     Head of Fellow at Residential College of Tun Syed Nasir

·         Student Representative Council UKM 2010/2011, 2011/2012 PMUKM

·    Assistant Treasurer of Chinese Community Council, CCC UKM

·    Deputy President of Karnival Sukan Persatuan Mahasiswa UKM 2011

·    Panel of Forum “Penghayatan terhadap Lagu Varsiti Kita” PMUKM

·    Champion of English Debate in Ibu Zain International Student House

·    Director of General Student Affair in Projek Kelas Mandarin

·    Director of Marketing, Environmental Awareness Program with University Sabah

Malaysia and the Local Communities in Lohan, Ranau, Sabah 2012

·    President of Pesta Ang Pow Ibu Zain International Student House, KIZ

·    Director of Marketing in Karnival Premier Silang Budaya, KIZ

·    Director of Protocol in Majlis Penyerahan Bendera, KIZ

·    Secretariat of Protocol in Karnival Alam Sekitar Lestar, KIZi 2009

·    Secretariat of Protocol in Majlis Penghayatan Ramadhan, KIZ 2009

·    Secretariat of Protocol in Majlis Anugerah Tahunan Kolej, KIZ 2009

·    Secretariat of Marketing in 30th Pesta Tanglung UKM

·    Secretariat of Inovation in 31th Pesta Tanglung UKM

·    Secretariat of Souvenir in 17th Pesta Ang Pow UKM

·    Secretariat of Publicity in 18th Pesta Ang Pow UKM

·    Secretariat of Technical in 37th Pesta Konvokesyen UKM

 SPECIAL SKILLS                                                                                                                                          

·    Proficient in Microsoft Word, Excel and PowerPoint

Fluent in written and spoken English, Bahasa Malaysia, Mandarin, and

Cantonese.

·    Reading, socializing and joining indoor and outdoor activities.

29 Jun 2009, satu tarikh yang cukup istimewa dan bermakna dalam kehidupan saya. Saya memegang surat tawaran daripada Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia (UKM) sambil menuju ke Kolej Ibu Zain (G) untuk pendaftaran. Pada saat ketika itu penuh dengan perasaan yang sedih kerana akan berpisah buat sementara waktu dengan keluarga tetapi pada masa yang sama hati berasa seronok kerana helaian hidup baru di UKM bakal bermula.

            “Kolej Antarabangsa Ibu Zain”. Akhirnya selamat sampai walaupun berkali-kali pusing di dalam kampus yang besar dan sesat. Sungguh cantik, aman dan damai suasana di kolej tersebut. Setelah selesai sesi pendaftaran, abang-abang dan kakak-kakak Pemudahcara (PC) terus menyambut dan menerangkan tentatif pada hari tersebut. Sebelum ibu bapa pulang ke kampung, pesanan mereka kepada saya agar belajar bersungguh-sungguh dan menikmati kehidupan di universiti. Saya amat bersyukur dan berterima kasih kerana diberi peluang untuk melanjutkan mahasiswaan ke menara gading dan digelar sebagai mahasiswa.

            Minggu Mesra Pelajar (MMP) merupakan satu aktiviti khas dan wajib kepada semua mahasiswa baru pada setiap sesi kemasukan. MMP juga merekodkan kenangan yang tidak dapat dilupai sepanjang hidup ini kerana semua kenalan kawan, senior, coursemate, Pemudahcara, Majlis Eksekutif Mahasiswa (MEP), Felo, Timbalan Pengetua, Pengetua serta Pengurusan Kolej dan Universiti bermula di situ.

            Selepas tamat seminggu MMP, maka secara rasminya bermula kuliah di fakulti. Saya mendapat program Sains Kitaran, Fakulti Sains dan Teknologi yang terletak agak jauh dari kolej. Bersyukur kerana saya mempunyai 3 orang lagi sahabat yang mendapat program yang sama di KIZ yang dapat teman pergi ke kuliah bersama-sama. Program saya mempunyai mahasiswa yang agak ramai, iaitu sebanyak 74 orang jika berbanding dengan program lain. Walaupun semua berasal dari negeri yang berlainan tetapi kita mampu berkenalan antara satu sama lain dalam masa yang singkat.

            Aktiviti dan akademik di UKM berpisah tiada. Walaupun tujuan utama belajar di UKM adalah untuk mendapat segulung ijazah, namun kemahiran insaniah perlu dilengkapi sepanjang masa menuntut ilmu di UKM untuk menjadi graduan yang beraspirasi nasional dan berkompeten. Jika lihat kepada program yang dianjurkan di UKM sama ada di kolej mahupun di fakulti, adakah semua program dapat mencapai objektif dan memberi impak kepada masyarakat, atau cuma sekadar menganjurkan program untuk mendapatkan merit?

            Jika dibandingkan dengan aktiviti yang berada di universiti lain, kita tidak terkejut dengan nama UKM terkenal dengan bilangan aktiviti dan program antara yang terbanyak di Malaysia. Hampir setiap minggu di kolej, pusat mahupun fakulti mempunyai aktiviti masing-masing. Saya kira tidak ada masalah banyak program dianjurkan untuk meraikan kepelbagaian jenis nic aktiviti. Namun begitu, sudah tibalah masa kita mengkaji kesesuaian dan impak aktiviti dengan mengambil kira aspek program yang diulangi dengan pengisian  yang sama pada setiap tahun.

            Memandangkan UKM mempunyai mahasiswa dari pelbagai bidang seperti perubatan, kejuruteraan, sains kesihatan, pergigian, farmasi, undang-undang, sains sosial, sains dan teknologi, pendidikan, pengajian islam, ekonomi dan pengurusan, sains teknologi dan maklumat dan sebagainya, kenapa tiada integrasi antara satu sama lain dalam menganjurkan sebuah aktiviti yang melibatkan persilangan bidang kepakaran masing-masing? Integrasi sebegini perlu diadakan bagi mahasiswa memperluaskan pemikiran dan bukan sahaja mengehadkan diri dalam bidang sendiri.

            Sejak UKM diberi status Universiti Penyelidikan, penjanaan kewangan perlu dilakukan di setiap Pusat Tanggungjawab (PTJ). Penganjur program harus berusaha mencari dana dan pemasaran bagi program masing-masing. Jika dilihat dari persepektif yang membina, para mahasiswa perlu merancang strategi yang sesuai untuk medapatkan sumbangan dana daripada pihak luar seperti NGO, syaraikat-syarikat swasta dan lain-lain. Bukan sahaja itu, mahasiswa turut dapat meningkatkan kemahiran berkomunikasi dan kemahiran berunding dengan pihak penaja dan sebaginya apabila mencari dana dan pemasaran program.

            Selari dengan paksi peredaran zaman yang penuh dengan graduan universiti, mahasiswa universiti sebagai bakal graduan UKM harus melengkapkan diri ilmu pengetahuan yang tinggi dan kemahiran insaniah yang kukuh untuk bersaing dengan graduan lain.  Realiti majikan di pasaran sekarang sungguh jelas bahawa seseorang graduan yang mempunyai keputusan akademik yang sangat cemerlang tetapi tidak mampu menonjolkan diri sendiri sudah pasti tidak akan diterima oleh majikan. Keseimbangan antara kecemerlangan akademik dan kemahiran insaniah perlu ada pada seseorang mahasiswa sebelum menerima segulung ijazah pada majlis konvokesyen.

            Apakah kaedah yang paling cepat dan mudah untuk melengkapkan diri dengan kemahiran insaniah dan pada masa yang sama mencapai keputusan yang cemerlang? Jawapan saya cukup mudah. Tiada jalan pintas untuk mencapai sesuatu. Secara umumnya, disiplin diri dan pengurusan masa merupakan kata kunci kejayaan seseorang. Meskipun semua mahasiswa mempunyai komitmen masing-masing dalam akademik, namun mustahil tiada masa untuk melibatkan diri dalam program anjuran kolej, pusat mahunpun fakulti. Sesungguhnya seseorang yang bijak mengurus diri dan mengurus masa dapat mengecapi kejayaan yang kita tidak dapat jangkakan.

            Akhir kata, saya ingin mengambil kesempatan ini untuk mengucapkan ribuan terima kasih kerana memberi peluang kepada saya untuk memberi coretan kata. Terima kasih juga kepada ayahanda, En. Anuar Ahmad, barisan MEP sesi 2009/2010 yang diketuai oleh Ketua Eksekutif Abang Mohd Shah Mokhtar serta Barisan Felo. Bersyukur kerana selepas tamat ijazah sarjanamuda di UKM, saya berpeluang melanjutkan pelajaran di UKM Kampus Kuala Lumpur dan bertugas sebagai Felo Kolej Tun Syed Nasir untuk terus berbakti, membimbing mahasiswa dan berkongsi pengalaman dalam pelbagai aspek. Semoga semua terus sukses dan diberkati!

Wilfred Mok

Alumni KIZ 2011/2012

            “It isn’t always easy to rise above what has happened to you and pursue your dreams. It takes great determination, not to mention a sense of purpose, hope, faith, and the beliefs that you have many talents and skills to share. However, if you choose the right attitude and gain proper perspective, you can rise above whatever challenge   you face!”

                                                                                                                        - Nick Vujicic-